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Warning Signs That You Are In A Happy Ending Massage Parlor

Happy Ending Massage parlors are running rampant across every major city. Sex addicts should stay away from all massage parlors period, in early sobriety.

Are you a sex addict looking for a legitimate massage and not a massage with happy ending? Here are some warning signs to determine if you are in a happy ending massage parlor or not.

They’ll ask you if you’ve been there before

If the masseuse asks you if you’ve been there before and you say yes, this gives a signal to the masseuse that she will feel more comfortable asking you if you want a message with happy ending. They will also try and make small talk with you and ask you questions like “No work today?” these are just typical questions a erotic massage masseuse will ask.

There is a fake flower and a pair of boxer shorts on the massage table

The fake flower is very tacky and legitimate massage parlors rarely display them. As you enter the establishment and pay, the Mamasan will direct you to a room with a number on it. Generally, there is a pair of boxer shorts and a fake flower on top of a towel. Dim the lights or turn on the fan if you need to.

Set the fake flower to the side. Put the boxer shorts on. Lay down, and wait for the masseuse. Johns will not put on the boxer shorts and lay naked under the towel. This is a sign to the masseuse that the John wants a rub and tug.

The reviews are on an adult entertainment website and not on yelp

Checking reviews will help you determine whether the massage establishment is legitimate or not. Obviously, if the massage parlor is listed on a site called rubmaps, that should be a clear warning sign that it is a happy ending massage parlor. Google the phone number and see what comes up.

Look for reviews by women

If there are reviews by women than it is very unlikely that the massage parlor is a rub and tug. Only men get erotic massage. Women never do. A women can have sex whenever they want. Another sign the massage is legal is if they mention in their review that they went with their significant other.

They start doing a prostate massage

A legitimate masseuse would never do this. An erotic massage will often consist of a masseuse gliding their hand in the region between the anus and testicles.

As the masseuse performs this erotic massage a john will lift up his legs and put their wait on their elbows and knees so the masseuse has access to their genitals. The masseuse will then reach further in and start rubbing the genitals.

After this is done for a short period of time, the masseuse will tell the John to turn over and start the negotiation for erotic massage.

They are not dressed professionally

If the masseuse is wearing a lot of makeup and a dress then it’s probably a rub and tug. A professional masseuse would be wearing a uniform.

There is a tray full of candy

Rub and tug massage parlors usually have a tray full of candy. This is a common characteristic to watch out for.

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Do you feel you may have a sex addiction? Contact Sex Addicts Anonymous and look for local meeting in your area. Sober coaching is also available.





Erotic Monkey and Slixa Escort Advertising Site Still Up As Others Shut Down

The new Fosta Bill (the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act) has had a huge impact on the sex worker industry in the United States since going into effect in April, 2018. Most of the main sites that promote prostitution like Backpage, City Vibe, My Red Book, and Humaniplex have either been shut down or had their classified listings shut down. The Erotic Review, and international site where John’s rate and write about their experience with an escort, has shut down all activity within the United States.

The Fosta Bill was designed to prevent websites from facilitating sex trafficking.  The new bill holds website owners legally liable for criminal prosecution for any material promoting prostitution on their platform. It gives the state attorneys general the power to bring a civil action against websites promoting prostitution.

When FOSTA first took effect, sex workers were expressing concern about their safety since these sites screened Johns. The higher end escorts would ask Johns for personal information and references from other sex workers they’ve seen in the past.  It provided a sense of security for them and made it less likely to get arrested.

The lower end prostitutes that are mainly drug addicts and controlled by pimps were in fear that they’d have to hit the streets because they can no longer advertise online.  The streets are way more dangerous and it is more likely that they can get arrested.

Escorts and Johns have been finding their way around FOSTA. New sites have been popping up that are almost replicas of the major sites that were shut down by the bill.

Some of these sites have been up for a while and others are new. It seems that FOSTA is having trouble enforcing this bill and that “the world’s oldest profession” will not disavow their presence on the internet. Here is a list of escort websites as of 6/3/2018 that are promoting escort and erotic services.



Escort Ads


Erotic Monkey

Adult Search

Girl Directory

Live Escort Reviews




One Back Page

Skip The Games

We have to make sure any and all websites promoting prostitution get shut down. If someone wants to do sex work they should go to certain parts of Nevada where prostitution is legal and where it is done in a safe environment that is regulated by the state which conducts regular tests for sexually transmitted diseases and makes condoms mandatory.

Getting hookers can turn into a dark sadistic addiction. It’s like drug addiction. You obsess over it, spend your money on it, it’s dangerous, makes you feel dirty, and it deters you from having a meaningful relationship. There are many books available that can help with sex addiction.

Breaking the cycle

Sex Addiction 101

Sex Addicts Anonymous

Sober Coaching

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Humaniplex is still up but Johns and Escorts are running out of options

Prostitution had been very popular on the internet for a long time and it seems that Humaniplex is the only major escort review site still live that connects Escort with Johns.

Several sites like the erotic review and myredbook provided reviews where Johns could read about other Johns experiences with Prostitutes. After Backpage was shut down by FOSTA which Allow States and Victims to Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act, other major escort sites like Cityvibe have been shut down and the Erotic Review one of the biggest escort review sites in the world is no longer available in the United States.

The Erotic Review and My Red Book Provided Safety For Both Escorts and Johns

Internet prostitution over the years became very popular especially with Craigslist because it is a much safer outlet than soliciting a prostitute on the street or in public for a number of reasons.

These escort review sites were a platform where Johns could share their experiences with escorts in a public forum. Information such as the looks and the level of service provided by a particular escort were available.

By reading past reviews of other Johns or hobbyists as they liked to be called, A John could get an idea of how the Escort looked, The level of service they provided, and if the situation was safe or not and vice versa for the escort.

Escorts That Require References

Johns that have written a lot of reviews and have been whore mongering for a while know a network of prostitutes that will vouch for them in the same way a John vouches for a prostitute. The more high end Escorts ask the John for references of other escorts they’ve been with so they know and feel confident that the John is safe and is not a cop. With the lack of screening on both ends many Johns are upping their erotic massage parlor visits.

Prostitutes that require references are more the type that actually do this for a living full time, have real pictures, and ask for more money than escorts on backpage.

Escorts Now Soliciting on Dating Sites

popular dating websites like plenty of fish and okcupid have become a breeding ground where escorts and strippers are looking for clients. Let’s face it, most of the guys on dating sites are looking for sex and sex workers know that.

The sex worker will create a profile as a single lady looking to make a connection for a date. Once a guy contacts them they flip the script and ask them to come to the club where they strip or offer them sex for money. Escorts now are looking for alternative methods of soliciting Johns with all these major escort websites shutting down.

Escort Sites Still Live Where escorts advertise

Other than Humaniplex, there are still some major escort sites still up but they will probably be shut down soon or at least shut down in the United States soon due to FOSTA. Websites like  That Mall, Erotic Monkey, and Eros are still active.

Are You A Sex Addict Addicted To Prostitues?

If you are or know someone that is a sex addict and needs help there is plenty of information available. Get help now before it starts to make your life unmanageable at Sex Addict Anonymous.

Sober Coaching is also available.

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False Evidence Appearing Real – The Power Of Fear On The Mind

False Evidence Appearing Real is a well known acronym in recovery. In reality, fear isn’t actually happening in the present moment. It doesn’t exist.

As Eckhart Tolle, says there is a difference between your life and your life situation. Your life situation may be a mess but do you have what you need in the present moment? Do you have food, clothing, and shelter? Are your thoughts your thoughts or in reality are you just pure consciousness experiencing life. Can you be fully present in the now and enjoy God’s creations?

Could you have very little in the physical world but still be at peace? The answer is yes.

Another acronym for FEAR is Fuck Everything And Run – Well, that’s the reason we turn to addiction. To escape the burdens of life. When your life is falling apart before your very eyes the mental noise can be unbearable. Whether it’s drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, it’s the only way we can turn off the dysfunctional self talk for some temporary relief. It seemed to work for a while but then it no longer works.

Let’s say you are in a position were you lose your job. Your mind starts projecting into the future. What am I going to do? How am I going to survive and take care of my family? I’m going to end up in the streets and I can’t deal with that. I don’t want to go on anymore. It drives people to the point of insanity and possibly suicide. Alcoholics of a certain variety need to either follow the spiritual path or drink, there is no in between. Many alcoholics wont follow the spiritual path because they can’t open their mind and have faith in a higher power. They are will not’s.

It requires major discipline but you can’t let the ego function control you. The mind is a tool just like the body. The difference is the body works on automation, the mind doesn’t. The mind is a great tool for thinking but other than that it should be turned off.

Be the watcher of your mind and witness how many thoughts are actually productive. As you witness you’ll realize that most thoughts are dysfunctional. Your mind is constantly trying to project fear, anger, jealousy, arrogance, fault finding and judgement of others. When these thoughts come up immediately dismiss them, think about God and become more aware of the present moment. Be of service to others, it gets you out of your head. Do God’s work and stop obsessing on your self. This is what has been working for me.

Fear keeps you from making any progress in your life. My favorite spiritual coach Bob Proctor talks in great detail about overcoming fear. Check out his youtube channel. Bob Proctor Youtube.

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Freedom From The Bondage Of Self – The Spiritual Path To Finding God

In my recovery I realized that what is separating me from finding God is my self identity. This false sense of self identity that has been created out of dysfunction and has controlled me my whole life up until now. This self identity that has gripped me with fear, feelings of unworthiness and inferiority to others but at the same time feeling superior to others. It tells me I’m better than or less than you.

The ego is not your amigo. It is what separates me from everybody else. The ego will build a case against anybody. My ego will find fault in you, judge you, pretty much tear you apart in my mind. You can do something I don’t like and that is the end of our relationship and vice versa. I look back and think about all the people that have come and gone throughout my life.

Self will the enemy
My warped thought process is what keeps me from finding God.







In order to form a relationship with God you have to let go of all preconceived ideas, present habits of thought, basically empty your self of self will because it is the self that blocks finding God. It is fear that keeps you from freedom and keeps you remained in bondage. It’s the fear that holds you back from moving forward and enjoying life.

We were all created unique in God’s image. We are each unique in our own way so to judge or find fault in others yourself is disrespecting God. I’m just starting to love myself for the first time in my life.

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Psychic Change – Living in Peace By Doing the God’s Will

Addiction is a disease of extreme self centeredness. The addict is always pointing the finger at everybody else not aware that they are the problem.

The ego and the mental disease of alcoholism are constantly entering the mental state with dysfunctional thoughts such as resentment, finding fault in others, judging, anger, fear, inpatience, self pity, self delusion, etc. The ego function lives in the past and the future and is in denial of the present moment. You will begin to notice that most dysfunctional thoughts are fear based. Addicts live in fear.

We addicts have created a false sense of identity by believing all our thoughts are actually ours. When you realize they are not your thoughts you can be free from them. You no longer have to live in this false identity and can be free of it. You can begin to have a different perception of reality.

We have to watch our thought stream and when the ego projects a negative thought we have to repudiate it. This is what works for me. I’m fully aware of my thought stream. I don’t entertain negativity. The mind is a tool just like the body. When it isn’t being used it should be set aside. Watch the thoughts and you’ll see that most of them are dysfunctional and not constructive.

We have to be fully immersed in the present moment which is all we really have. When the ego begins to project negative thoughts into your mental state begin to concentrate harder on the present moment. Pay closer attention to your surroundings. Notice the trees, the birds, the sky. Stare in wonder and awe of all creation. Appreciate how amazing everything is. It’s all about shifting your mindset.

By shutting self centeredness out we can begin to think of and help others. You actually get a spiritual high making a difference in someones life. Give thanks and gratitude to God for being. You’ll no longer feel that you need and external possession like a new home or car to fix you. Being at peace is an inside job.

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What is detected on a 12 panel drug test and why would you take it?

A  standard 12 panel drug test kit is for the detection of marijuana, cocaine, opiates (heroin, morphine, opium, smack), amphetamine (Adderall, Dexedrine, speed, uppers), methamphetamine (crank, ice, crystal meth), benzodiazepines (xanax, valium), barbiturates, phencyclidine (PCP), ecstasy, oxycodone (Percocet, Percodan, OxyContin, Vicodin), methadone, and buprenorphine.

The twelve panel drug test is the most thorough drug test because it can test for extended opiates and the misuse of prescription painkillers like Percocet, Vicodin, and Lortab that would not show up on a test with fewer panels.

The hair follicle drug test can detect drugs up to the longest duration. Other drug tests include saliva and blood but urine is the most common because it is the easiest and the least expensive.

There are many reasons why you should take a drug test. Maybe your employer has a drug testing policy and could test you soon, or maybe you’re being considered for a job and a pre‐employment drug test is needed. They might also perform tests because an employee appears to be under the influence of drugs or alcohol on the job, if unexcused absence from work or lateness is an issue, or if performance appears to be impacted by drug or alcohol abuse. What ever the case may be you have to find out if you test positive.

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Addicted to prostitutes – Addicts may transfer one addiction to another

Some alcoholics that get sober will transfer their disease to another addiction like sex, food, or gambling. They justify their new addiction in their heads due to the fact that they aren’t using drugs and alcohol and they need at least something to check out.

What happens is some alcoholics get “dry” meaning the they put the plug in the jug but they haven’t had a change of character and they don’t work the twelve steps. They don’t live their lives on a spiritual path and still have the same old dysfunctional behavior. Sex addiction like pornography can get way out of hand like drug and alcohol abuse, the consequences could easily get worse.

Do prostitutes enjoy sex?

I highly doubt that any prostitute enjoys selling their body for sex. Most prostitutes in the United States are doing it either because they are a drug addict or someone is forcing them to do it.

Prostitutes in third world countries do it more so do to poverty and men from the United States go over to these poor countries and exploit that. Sex tourism is popular among men in places like Thailand, The Dominican Republic, and Costa Rica.

Where do sex addicts find prostitutes?

Prostitutes are mainly found online on sites like the erotic review, backpage, cityvibe, and humaniplex. The biggest one out there is the erotic review. My red book was another big escort review site but that one got shut down. Backpage was forced to shut down their erotic services section but all the prostitutes moved over to the women seeking men section and are still advertising and doing the exact same thing that got the erotic services section shut down.

Many of these web sites have reviews on prostitutes that potential clients can read. Going to see a prostitute can be dangerous. Someone could be waiting in the closet and jump out and rob a John or the prostitute could be an under cover cop. That’s why these internet review sites have grown so much in popularity. These Johns feel more comfortable seeing a prostitute with good reviews because they feel that they’ll be safe and not get ripped off or get arrested.

They also can read about the prostitute’s performance and if their pictures are accurate. They have a better idea of knowing what kind of situation they are getting into.

Scouring the internet shopping for prostitutes can be an addiction in itself like watching pornography and can take up a lot of time. It’s a way to check out from reality just like drinking or doing drugs.

It’s not only the act of having the sex that is appealing to the sex addict but actually going to see and have sex with a complete stranger can get the adrenaline pumping. Just like with drugs. It’s not only the act of doing the drugs but going to get them in a seedy neighborhood and possibly getting ripped off. It’s the dangerous act around actually doing the intended act.

Stopping sex addiction

stopping sex addiction is like stopping any other addiction like drugs or alcohol. You first have to admit that you have a problem and that your life is unmanageable. Then you need to get help. If you decide to get help and start to experience a change in character you will no longer be interested in just the animalistic act of sex with a prostitute and will instead desire to have a meaningful relationship. This is what happens when addicts start to grow spiritually, they change.

You will need help and you could use the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and apply it to sex addiction. Just switch the word alcohol for sex. Most programs use the twelve steps but there are other programs out there that are more like group therapy and don’t come from a spiritual perspective. Any real addict needs help from a power greater than themselves because their mind is warped and they can’t do it on their own.

Reach out for help, get a sponsor, start going to meetings. A real addict can’t do it on their own and live a happy and joyous life. There are also plenty of books out there to help you on your journey other than the big book. Check out Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved. There are plenty of different books on Amazon. These are meant to be suggestions.




Under A-Rest By Paul Hedderman Reflections on the Twelve Steps

Paul Hedderman, founder of and author of The Escape to Everywhere, speaks publicly about being rooted in non-duality, zen and recovery.

What we attempt to do here is share about what we are not.
You just see there is no relationship.
The whole how and why of recovery is to quit playing god.
Who are you buying off by all your doing? The god of your mind’s making.
I’m not looking for relief for self; I found relief from self.
There is no see-er that is seeing.
The best way out is to realize you were never in.

Hedderman believes there is nothing for a seeker to do except just stop being a self.

Purchase Under A-Rest an examination of the 12 Steps, AA, and the illusion of a separate self that fundamentally drives all addiction. By Paul Hedderman

Dr Harry Tiebout – Psychiatrist That Identified Alcoholism As A Disease

One of the first psychiatrists to describe alcoholism as a disease rather than a moral failing or criminal activity, Harry Tiebout was one of the first to wholeheartedly endorse Alcoholics Anonymous as an effective force in the struggle against compulsive drinking.

In one of his early papers, Tiebout discounted the idea, common among psychoanalytically-inclined doctors, that there was a classic type of pre-alcoholic personality. In his view all of the personality characteristics associated with early alcoholism were manifestations of the tension state accompanying intermittent alcohol binges. These features included:

  1. An unconscious need or drive to dominate
  2. A prevailing negative, hostile feeling-tone
  3. A capacity for ecstatic peaks
  4. A sense of loneliness and isolation
  5. Feelings of inferiority and superiority which exist simultaneously in the individual
  6. A striving for perfection


Harry Tiebout
(from the left) Dr. Bob, Dr. Harry M Tiebout, Bill Wilson


This volume brings together, for the first time, some of Tiebout’s most influential writings. Many of these pieces–from explorations of the therapeutic approach to alcoholism to instructive discussions of the act of surrender so crucial to recovery–are seminal documents in the history, treatment, and understanding of alcoholism. Together, they represent the significant contribution of one man to the countless lives shaken by alcoholism and steadied with the help of Alcoholics Anonymous, psychiatric intervention, and the foresight and commitment of doctors like Harry M Tiebout.

Purchase: Harry Tiebout: The Collected Writings by Harry Tiebout (1999-09-15)