False Evidence Appearing Real is a well known acronym in recovery. In reality, fear isn’t actually happening in the present moment. It doesn’t exist.
As Eckhart Tolle, says there is a difference between your life and your life situation. Your life situation may be a mess but do you have what you need in the present moment? Do you have food, clothing, and shelter? Are your thoughts your thoughts or in reality are you just pure consciousness experiencing life. Can you be fully present in the now and enjoy God’s creations?
Could you have very little in the physical world but still be at peace? The answer is yes.
Another acronym for FEAR is Fuck Everything And Run – Well, that’s the reason we turn to addiction. To escape the burdens of life. When your life is falling apart before your very eyes the mental noise can be unbearable. Whether it’s drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, it’s the only way we can turn off the dysfunctional self talk for some temporary relief. It seemed to work for a while but then it no longer works.
Let’s say you are in a position were you lose your job. Your mind starts projecting into the future. What am I going to do? How am I going to survive and take care of my family? I’m going to end up in the streets and I can’t deal with that. I don’t want to go on anymore. It drives people to the point of insanity and possibly suicide. Alcoholics of a certain variety need to either follow the spiritual path or drink, there is no in between. Many alcoholics wont follow the spiritual path because they can’t open their mind and have faith in a higher power. They are will not’s.
It requires major discipline but you can’t let the ego function control you. The mind is a tool just like the body. The difference is the body works on automation, the mind doesn’t. The mind is a great tool for thinking but other than that it should be turned off.
Be the watcher of your mind and witness how many thoughts are actually productive. As you witness you’ll realize that most thoughts are dysfunctional. Your mind is constantly trying to project fear, anger, jealousy, arrogance, fault finding and judgement of others. When these thoughts come up immediately dismiss them, think about God and become more aware of the present moment. Be of service to others, it gets you out of your head. Do God’s work and stop obsessing on your self. This is what has been working for me.
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